The Breather #16: The Regulated Life
Hi fellow breather and somanaut,
Lasting transformation and healing often requires lifestyle changes.
At times, uncomfortable ones, unexpected ones.
For me, it took a very big shift. One that I could never have imagined five years ago.
It took falling in love with “the boring life”.
The reality is:
Making our life a little boring on purpose regulates our nervous system.
The destination is the boring “Now” - the place that seems so unsatisfying and painful when we’re in dysregualtion.
Dysregulation seems to makes us feel uncomfortable in our bodies due to the stored energy that causes us to be in high sympathetic (fight/flight) or freeze mode. Both are states of non-safety.
The more we get to access ventral vagal, the more safety and comfort we feel in our body, the more safe we feel in the word and safe to connect to it and others.
As a result, the desire to escape into dramas, peak experiences and bliss states vanishes.
You have come home.
(includes my personal story)
📚 CHECK THIS OUT 📚
Resources I highly recommend you check out:
🌿 Return to the body, befriend emotions and create as you are. I recently had a deep conversation with Kelly from the Wild on Purpose podcast. Definitely check it out. She is also running a cool free workshop to kickstart into spring (I'll be there too).
🫁 What if your BOLT score is less than 15 seconds? If you don't know your BOLT Score, then check out my post here and then do the test. Hint: it has everything to do with your breathing pattern and nervous system health.
📖 Learning about trauma beyond ‘The Body Keeps the Score’ (and why the book is problematic). The book by Bessel van der Kolk is all the hype on the internet these days, but it's always good to question hypes (and why many books on trauma are by white CIS men).
💨 Different emotions show up in different breathing patterns. What we in the breathwork space have known all along, science is slowly catching up to: more emerging literature support a link between breathing, emotion, and cognition.
🎧 The best deep focus music. I tried out all the deep work music apps and playlist, but I can really only focus my brain when writing and creating with this one.
😔 Shame is the motivator behind our toxic behaviors. I recently finished this book on shame and now I want the world to read it. We don't talk about shame enough and yet, it runs all our lives.
📱 HIGHLIGHTS ON @BREATHWORK.ALCHEMY
(in case you missed them)
🌬 BREATHE WITH ME LIVE! 🌬
Join Breathwork Alchemy's next monthly powerful signature deep dive session:
Date: Sunday March 26th (exactly in one week)
Time: 6pm CET Berlin / 5pm GMT London / 12pm EST New York
Where: Online via Zoom
Transformational Breathwork is an active meditation using conscious connected breathing. It is designed to:
release stress, tension and held emotion
improve mental clarity & focus
connect you to your inner wisdom, creativity & awareness
help repattern your nervous system and mind by completing emotional stress cycles to return back to homeostasis for increased self-regulation
Let's get together to heal, feel and release using the power of the breath.
In order to make these offerings as accessible as possible, I offer sliding scale pricing for these monthly sessions, so you can choose how much you can pay based on your financial resources.
💨 LIVE Community Breathwork SESSIONS
Join my weekly “Breathwork + Somatics for Nervous System Regulation” sessions on Instagram:
Every Thursday at 6pm BST / 7pm CET / 1pm EST
On my instagram @breathwork.alchemy
You can also find some of the latest replays on my feed
[🪐 UPDATES FROM MY UNIVERSE]
🐋 Currently in the middle of a 6-week program on “Inner Relationship Focusing”, which is so good. If you don't know what I'm talking about, check out this book.
🐦 Being more active on Twitter and slowly growing a following over there. Come connect with me @connibiesalski
🎓 Slowly getting ready to open applications for our upcoming teacher training on May 9th (German edition / English coming in 2024). We have almost 300 people on the waitlist (crazy 🤪) and we're working hard to optimize it each year.
🏄 After healing a shoulder injury for almost a year, I'm preparing to get back on the board again soon. Stoked!
On my walk with Toni yesterday.
Leaving you with a little quote:
”I sense, I act, I feel, I perceive, I reflect, I think and I reason;
therefore I know I am."
- Peter Levine
(I'm gonna add: I breathe :))
Keep feeling, keep breathing, stay awesome!
#letsgetregulated
Conni 🐋
Founder of Breathwork Alchemy
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We already have more than 350 students in my course "Breathwork and Nervous System Foundations".
I will continue to update the content and practices for years to come as I want this to be the best and most effective course on Breathwork and the nervous system out there. Join here!
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Conni Biesalski - Somatic Coach | Breathwork & Meditation Teacher
Oxygen Advantage | Buteyko Method | Neurodynamic Breathwork
Somatic Experiencing©
Founder of Breathwork Alchemy & Co-Founder of Intesoma Breathwork Teacher Training
Regulate your nervous system, process your emotions, and come home to your body.
